Mothers Of The Bride And Groom Gowns
Children bring their mothers enormous pride and joy when they are engaged to be married. The planning for the mother of the bride and groom outfits can begin once the rush of the amazing news subsides. Mother of the bride and groom outfits should be comfortable, well fitted and age appropriate, and can be matched to the color, theme and style of the bridal party. Mothers matching their outfits has been a pattern for several years. Attending other weddings, reading marriage magazines and visiting bridal outfit shops can begin the process. Having a thought in mind as to style preference when beginning the search may also be a good idea.
My son was recently asked to attend as best man in the wedding of one of his friends. The mother of the groom was upset during most of the planning stages for the nuptials because not all her ideas were put to use. The bride's mother attempted to engage the groom's mother in the process of shopping for their outfits, however the groom's mother had no interest.. The bride's mother selected her outfit choosing as her mother of the bride outfit an elegant, stylish and flattering gown. She looked pleasing and was a compliment to the entire wedding. The mother of the groom chose as her mother of the groom outfit the same dress style as the bridesmaids, but in a slightly different hue. Unfortunately, the gown was not age appropriate or flattering to the groom's mother and she spent one of the most wonderful days she would ever have feeling remorseful and ridiculous.
A few thoughts. When picking out a mother of the bride or groom outfit, make sure to ask the bride if she has anything in particular in mind and if possible, take her along for fittings and to help select what she may want you to wear. The bride can have input if she and you want it, but do not hesitate to speak up if the gown she prefers is unflattering or price is an issue.
Specialty dress shops have special mother of the bride and groom outfits. Remember that you don't have to choose your dress from a specialty dress shop. Department stores sell formal wear for special times of the year and specified occasions. Guaranteed, those outfits will be lower priced than a dress in a specialty shop.
If, however, the bride has chosen something distinctive in a particular store, you may want to honor her wishes by accepting or at least considering her choice. If expense is an issue, remind her of that fact and look for something very much the same. If she still insists, then compromise becomes the order of the day. This is the bride and groom's special time and it involves cooperation and support from the mothers of the bride and groom. Once you experience the joy and laughter on this day, every dispute will be forgotten and you'll be the happiest mothers of the bride and groom ever.
The wedding my son was in made me appreciate that the day belongs to the bride and groom, not me. I will assist them. I will offer assistance if it's solicited, hold my counsel if it's not. I will even let them decide on the mother of the bride and groom outfits so as to not make them feel uncomfortable them as their friend was mortified. Keeping in mind that this is the bride and groom's day and not mine may be the most important lesson to come out of my children wedding day.
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